Transforming our Relationship to TIME – A review by Aruna Byers

April 18th was a collective journey through time and space at the Global Taiju and Nino picLeadership Café IV! After entering the room we were invited to contribute thoughts about our relationship to Time on the Time wall. These provocative comments set the stage for deep introspection, as we selected a place at one of 10 tables that filled the room. After a brief introduction to the GLC and its intentions for the gathering, we were asked to introduce ourselves and talk about our personal relationship to Time. Why is it that most of us seem to feel that we never have enough of it? Here are some examples of the comments from my table:

  1. How we think about time is a matter of perception.
  2. We have different relationships with Time, depending on our own point of view. For example, a speaker may feel there is not enough time to get all his points across while giving his talk, while someone in his audience may feel his presentation was taking too long.
  3. We may relate differently to Time physically than we do psychologically.
  4. Today’s technology can affect the way we use our time, i.e. being distracted by Facebook or watching TV.
  5. We can do things to save time, like preparing a whole week’s meals in one day, instead of cooking every day.
  6. When you do things you love you can get into a flow where time is not an issue.

Before we knew it we were lost in time. The conversation picked up speed and it continued at the next table. After updating our new team as to what was previously discussed, we then incorporated these offerings into our new conversation, which took us into a deeper understanding of the subject. Some of the points that particularly spoke to me were:

TIME board

Time Themes

  1. We can actually shift time because the brain can hold onto and manifest any concept we choose.
  2. Meditation and its benefits can bring us into more self-awareness and improve the way we manage our use of Time.

After a break out of Time we joined a new table and dialogued around the question: “How does your relationship to Time affect your leadership style?” In my group, a comparison of the way different leaders deal with Time brought forth the consensus that while a structured, authoritarian approach to Time seems more efficient, and it may be in the short term, in the long run a collaborative approach is more effective because everyone shares ownership for the decision that has been made.

Those who previously sat at this table felt that most people generally run after Time instead of managing it—and this is perpetuated by the fear of not getting done what is expected or intended. This group then discussed the benefits of getting with “the flow,” where things seem to just happen magically.

We later returned to our starting position and summarized what had been brought forth from the group conversation and wrote our main points on large Post-its that were grouped in themes and placed on the walls. Finding the theme we felt the most attracted to was the next step on our journey through Time. These themes, in no particular order, were:

  1. Prioritizing around our values,
  2. Living habits,
  3. Perception of Time,
  4. Stopping and
  5. Natural Time

Skip and Michael picWith the help of a coach, each of us identified an action step we were willing to commit to that could improve our future relationship with Time. Everyone I spoke to after this meeting was extremely enthusiastic about the conversation and the way it was managed.

Conclusion: a great night with an amazing group of people. Many of us transformed our Relationships to TIME!